Interesting article.

Kind of biased in the distaff direction but it highlights a number of problems.

I think a big problem is the dating situation itself, that is, dating sites and mobile apps. They take a lot of the romance out of becoming acquainted with someone.

Dating sites are grad school marketing applied to dating. There is TOO much choice. There is a disincentive to take the time to get to know someone better, longer, lest you miss out on another opportunity.

Online dating tends to bring out the worst in people. And it DOES provide fertile ground for those with personality disorders to mine their prey. People are more liable to succumb to the wiles of disordered persons because they are not vetting them in person (at least not at first).

My thinking is that modern dating techniques and technology creates a lot of problems in the dating pool, some of the problems lamented of in the article. Allowing people to more efficiently find more compatible dates is a good thing, but it also leads to a culture of selection via FICO score, as it were: distillation of persons to a set of criteria that is devoid of the most important element: chemistry.

Online dating has a tendency to bring out the worst in people and creates a lot of negative practices and behaviors as well. There is a temporal incentive to treat people with less respect online. We should not be surprised when this spills over into the relations that are produced by those contacts.

These negative aspects should be resisted but, like ordering from Amazon, once you are able to get your package a day after ordering, you are not likely going to wait a week with another vendor.

In short, I think the modern dating process is responsible for some of the less noble behaviors of men and women. At least it tends to amplify those traits.

The genie is not going back into the bottle. But maybe part of the solution is not to uncork it so quickly ;-)

Thanks for the article.